“Do you ever wonder what it would be like if we had a different kind of life?”
I asked my husband this rather deep question as we shared a plate of fries, our few fun moments together before heading to the airport and our return to normal life.
I got to tag along to a company retreat in beautiful and warm Key West, Florida. After a few days spent reading and lounging on the beach, I wasn’t ready to head home yet.
I’ve often said that for the most part, I love my life. But part of how I maintain that love is that I don’t think too hard of what I might have instead. For for a couple of minutes I let myself wonder.
We have rarely traveled. We began our marriage as starving students, and then became home-owners that led almost directly to having children, and becoming a single income family. We have rarely taken vacations, and weekends away the two of us are few.
As I sat on that beach I wondered how things might have been different if we had chosen not to have children. Would we be debt-free now? Would we still live in our first house, having no need for a larger space? As a dual-income family would we be traveling, taking more vacations and perhaps living life at a more leisurely pace?
But the fact is my perspective is subjective and skewed. We’ve gotten by for years on much less money than we made with our two combined incomes. I don’t honestly know what we used to do with it. (I didn’t do the budget and finances back then.) We had most nights of the week free, and our weekends were our own. Yet I remember feeling busy.
I think back to only having one child and how much simpler it was, but I couldn’t know that until I had another. The very perspective that allows me to look back and wonder wouldn’t exist if I had taken a different road.
As I’m reacclimating to the daily drama and chaos here at home, a part of me is still on that beach. But would I have been able to enjoy those moments as deeply, if I didn’t have all of this to leave behind?
We traveled down the same road in our thoughts tonight, Bethany ;). It’s funny how we know in our head how to do things the ‘right way,’ but we don’t do them that way. Marriage. Two incomes. House. Children. One income. Sell everything to support children…Our nest is empty now, and we have time to get reacquainted, hang out together, and serve others together.
I don’t know where it would have led,
the road I did not follow,
but my dogs would all be dead
for they had no tomorrow.
They came to us, asking to live,
for they had nowhere else to turn,
and yet they had so much to give!
but the world would see them burn.
And so we gladly took them in,
and they brought with them so much more
than I could really ever win,
whatever life might have in store
down that road of wealth and bliss,
down that turn I gladly missed.
what a good question. glad I stopped in. FMF#5
Our life has been on one income too mostly. We are mostly debt free. We are mostly working hard and being busy with life. I am thankful we do travel a lot. We have passed on the newer kitchen or the bathroom models. We have watched our neighbors do those, but we choose travel. We choose memories, and we are thankful. We both may return to work this year, but God will lead the way on that too. This week I’m glad I’m a stay at home mom so that I can nurse my two with the flu. Life happens. Life is good. FMF friend, Jennifer
Bethany, I don’t believe you would have. #11 at FMF