February was not the month I expected, and that is especially apparent in me being a full week late for Share Four Somethings! (But hey, thank goodness it’s Leap Year and it’s still February).

Something Loved

We have some childhood friends of my husband’s who we visit with at least two or three times a year. We had previously scheduled to see them in April, but an upcoming family visit created a conflict. We realized it could take months to reschedule, or we could make a last-minute a week later. We opted for the last-minute visit and it was totally worth it. We had a wonderful weekend filled with laid back conversation and tons of board games. (We counted ten games played).

We love visiting with our long-time friends even if it means a bit of travel because it is a respite for the crazy that is our everyday. We mostly stay off our phones and leave our other tech at home and just enjoy being together.

Something Read

My reading goals took a big hit this month because of our protracted illness but I have been enjoying rereading Anne’s House of Dreams. I’m far from done, but I’m finding that the book has new meaning for me in this phase of my life than it did when I first read it fifteen years ago.

In fact, as I reread L.M. Montgomery’s entire series I feel like the books are taking on a new life. I read the majority of them in my early teen years and the rest in my young adulthood. It’s amazing how when you read a book has nearly as much impact as the content alone.

Something Treasured

We just got a new mattress this week, and we’re both feeling a little sentimental about replacing our old one. It’s the only mattress we’ve ever owned. It’s the first bed we ever slept in together. It has been the locus of our married intimacy and many long nights with our babies when they were tiny. But in the end it is just a thing.

As we moved it out of the bedroom I could see my husband’s face falling, and I know he can be much more attached to objects than I am. I reminded him that the memories of nearly seventeen years are what we treasure, not the material things attached to them.

Something Ahead

March is my birthday month. It’s also the birthday month of my son and nephew which leads to a very busy March. I have a history of finding adult birthdays depressing and I struggle with managing expectations. I keep thinking I can lower my expectations but the fact is, I just want to feel like I matter. I know my husband is busy with work and my children are too young to understand why it matters to me. But when you are mostly a stay at home mom, it’s hard to feel like you matter.
I’m throwing myself a girls’ night with a couple of friends (one of whom happens to share my birthday!) and I’m trying to find something fun to do with hubby. But if I’m honest, I’d just like to feel like I matter on more days of the year.
But I’m giving it my best to choose joy, to choose gratitude and focus on celebrating that I was born and I’m still here, with good work left to do, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.

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