Ha! (Sorry, that’s the first thing that came to mind.) I wish for a do-over often. I need to verbalize that to my kids more. When I yell for something that doesn’t deserve it. When I see the look of shock and hurt on my daughter’s face when I totally lose it over something trivial. When my son looks blankly at me when I request he pick up his own mess and throws a fit. Followed by me doing the same.
I think the best part about this is that we teach our kids that it’s Ok to admit you are wrong. Humility is such a difficult thing to grasp, especially in our culture that promotes self. I’ve always been a little bit afraid of admitting to my kids that I’m wrong. I thought it might make them feel insecure to think that mommy didn’t have it all together. But now I’m not so sure. I need to model humility and repentance for them or how will they ever learn?
I also need to give them the opportunity for do-overs, but with a good attitude. When I have to repeat myself I often get irritable. It feels like no one bothers to listen to me unless I’m yelling, which I hate. (Both the not listening and the yelling.) I can often be heard telling my kids to adjust their attitudes or tone and try again.
“Let’s try that again. Say ‘Please, Mommy, may I have more milk?’”
One of the hardest things about having little ones at home, (or older ones as well if you homeschool) is the constant presence of each other. As an introvert I find myself drained and often irritable because just being with them twenty four hours a day starts to wear me down. But being together this much also means that we have to deal with conflict, we can’t just avoid it. I have to work on being more patient and understanding. My kids have their own issues as well. It’s all part of the painful but necessary process of making us more like Jesus. Or at least it can be if we let it.