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To Dream or Not to Dream? Navigating Idealism With My Kids

July 30, 2021 by Bethany 4 Comments

I’ve spent a lot of the last week in the car. I’ve been hauling my oldest back and forth to…

Faith, Five Minute Friday, Parenting, Writing

Weighed and Measured But Never Found Wanting: Recognizing My Worth

March 29, 2019 by Bethany 3 Comments

I’m a concrete person who likes check boxes and definitions. I used to define my life by what I had…

Faith, Family, Five Minute Friday, Parenting, Stay at Home Mothering, Writing

Missing My Great Work: Identifying the Influence I Already Have

January 17, 2019 by Bethany 6 Comments

As a mother in a society that no longer values mothering as an exclusive, unpaid profession, I feel the constant…

Parenting

When My Parenting Isn’t Enough

August 8, 2018 by Bethany No Comments

“I hate you and I wish you were dead.” The words stung, though not as much as they did the…

Family, Parenting

I Can’t See the Future, But I Can Breathe in the Present

June 4, 2018 by Bethany 2 Comments

I’ve never really wanted a time machine before. After reading from Rachel at the Ugly Volvo about how kids make…

Faith, Five Minute Friday, Parenting, Writing

Untangling and Accepting: More Lessons in Releasing My Children

April 6, 2018 by Bethany 4 Comments

She was always a picky eater. Well, that’s not technically true. As a baby she ate almost anything I put…

Family

When Hard News Provides Hopeful Direction

February 9, 2018 by Bethany 2 Comments

Sometimes it feels good to have an answer, even if it’s a hard one. My daughter’s health has been a…

31 Days of Five Minute Free Writes, 31 Days of Honest Reflections on Faith, Faith, Family, Five Minute Friday, Parenting, Writing

What Kind of Character Do I Want to Be?

October 6, 2017 by Bethany 5 Comments

Mostly I think my life is ordinary and boring. I’ve wiped a lot of noses, changed hundreds of diapers, done…

Faith, Five Minute Friday, Parenting, Writing

The Discipline of Surrender

September 29, 2017 by Bethany 2 Comments

I grow weary of being the linchpin, the load bearing wall and the rudder. Some of this is just part…

Parenting

Just Being With Them: Lessons in Enjoying My Children

July 3, 2017 by Bethany 2 Comments

I am a structured person by nature. I like check lists, due dates and schedules. Even when my time is…

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This girl! She just comes to life on stage. The la This girl! She just comes to life on stage. The last three months have been grueling for us all. (Hard work for her trying to learn all the songs, dances and lines and for us managing schedules and transport). 
She'd never done a musical before and it's been quite an experience. In the end, I know she's proud of what she and the rest of the cast accomplished. (And still has two more shows to go!)
So grateful to @chrysostomacademy for opening their doors to homeschoolers and giving her this chance to shine. 

#musicmanjr #chrysostomacademy #parenting #parentingteens #theaterkid #homeschoolkid #babygirlgrowingup
At least seven years, possibly longer. I've lost t At least seven years, possibly longer. I've lost track at this point. 
There is still tons more work to do but I'm officially done with my first full manuscript edit and ready to send this well loved (and sometimes hated) project off to my beta readers. 
Holding my breath and hoping it's as good as I hope and not as bad as I fear. 

#manuscript #firstedit #betareaders #actsofwives #amwriting #amediting #historicfiction #onwriting #amwriting #writerproblems #theendisnear #musedontfailmenow #writingonthego #writerslife #wordcount #80000strong
#justafewmorewords #honestyarns #author #writing #workingtitle #AuthorsOfInstagram #WritersOfInstagram #alwaysawriter
What does rest mean to you? I've always thought of What does rest mean to you?
I've always thought of rest as either physical rest (sleeping) or something like a vacation when there is a freedom from responsibilities. 
I'm taking some time off from work this week and it's harder than I thought it would be. I'm not actually going anywhere so the daily needs of the house and family remain. 
If anything those needs loom even larger because without my job taking priority I suddenly feel responsible and even guilty for all of the undone projects. 
There is a sense of panic about what my in-box might look like when I return, and the need to feel valuable at my job.
Perfectionism raises its ugly head as I try to figure out the ideal, most efficient way to spend my week. 
But instead of galvanizing and exciting me, it paralyzes me. 
All the usual things still need to happen (laundry, cooking and cleaning), my children are still here and my husband is still working his paying job. 
Perhaps what I need most is freedom for my mind and spirit. 
The freedom to not be in charge of everything. The freedom to let go of the outcome (even though it wasn't truly within my control to begin with.) 
While I have always tried to create some sort of Sabbath rest, I wonder if this is the part I'm the worst at. Because the responsibility of life and parenthood never takes a day off. The weight of responsibility for their present and future needs is palpable. Some days I can almost feel my body bend under the pressure. 
Except these children are not mine alone, they are given to me to steward. The same power that spoke the world into motion is at work in their lives too. There are good plans for their life that I have no knowledge of or responsibility for. 
I may not be able to take the week off from parenting but I can take a break from worry and strife. I can be present without having to be pressured to produce perfection, in myself or in them. 
Now I just need to take a deep breath, and begin. 

#honestyarns #sabbathmonday #parenting #sabbath #rest #timeoff #presentoverperfect #freedom #recoveringoverachiever #preventingburnout
The only thing better than having a garden is havi The only thing better than having a garden is having a friend with a bigger, better garden. ☺️ Especially one who lives out in the country and invites you to come harvest berries (and peas) during a heatwave and it's a good ten degrees cooler than at home. 
So grateful for a community of friends that continue to be part of our kids' lives and education in so many ways. Last night was the most relaxing, fun I've had in a while, especially considering this heat. 

#garden #gardenlife #harvestoffriends #berries #summer #summergarden #natureday #notaschoolday #alwayslearning #alwaysgrowing #communityeducation #communityhomeschooling #microfarm
In the last week this kid has turned 15, and finis In the last week this kid has turned 15, and finished her first year of high school. She's become more independent while still being very aware of the benefits of childhood dependence. She's strong and stubborn, funny and deep, delightful and exhausting. 
I see glimpses of possibility and hear whispers of intermittent competence. Most weeks I'm not even sure how I feel about her growing up and I'm for sure grateful that she is my first and not my last. 
But this week has mostly been the joy of milestones completed with cautious moments of optimism. 
They get older. The problems are different. There is still joy, there is still struggle. But we change too. Our shoulders grow stronger and our hands open wider. 
I'm not ready to let go, but I'm getting used to the idea. 

#thisis15 #babygirlgrows #growingup #rootstogrow #wingstofly #celebrate #endofyear #homeschoolyear #honestyarns #faithandfamily
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